The best ways the get the most out of online dating
I met my partner online and we’re happily married and have started our own little family now.
Before I started online dating I knew nothing about it. I didn’t know anyone that had done it and actually found someone, so I made it my mission to find out the best way to do it.
I spoke to a lot of people, I tried different sites and tried a bunch of different things with my profile. I’ve compiled a list of all the best tips and tricks so you can get the most out of your online dating experience and find your elite partner as fast as possible!
Keep your profile short
Long profiles typically didn't fare well, especially if they aren’t well written. Thoughtful women, or women who are quite smart want to know about you in about 57-97 words.
If you find your current profile isn’t working that well for you, it’s probably time to revamp it!
Be selective
It's good to give examples of your likes and dislikes, but bear in mind that you may inadvertently discourage someone by getting too specific about things that aren't ultimately that important. Try not to ramble about anything in your profile. Be selective with the content that you put up about yourself, you can open up and get to know people better through messaging and dates!
Use optimistic language
Certain words like "fun", "happy" etc. made profiles more popular. Talk about what excites you, or paint a picture of a really great day that you would want to be a part of. When you read it back to yourself, would you date you?
Market yourself
Don't just reuse old photos or copy your profile from dating site to dating site. If you’re using photos that are older than 2 years or 2 hair colours ago, it’s time to ditch those pics! There are a lot of parallels between online dating and marketing: you must know exactly who your audience is, who you want to attract and what's most likely to hook them. Have mostly photos where you’re the only one in the picture, no one likes searching through group photos trying to figure out who it is they’re trying to find and don’t forget to smile!
Make a wish-list
Develop a strategy before you begin messaging everyone.
What, exactly, are you looking for in a partner? Create a "shopping list" and be as specific as possible. Rather than saying "someone who wants kids", get more specific. Say that you want someone who wants two kids, about three years apart if that’s what you’re looking for. Part of making your list is defining what you want.
Keep score
Once you've thought of all the traits you want in a mate, prioritize them. Think about the characteristics in the context of previous relationships, your friends and your family. Decide what your "must haves" are and what your "hard passes" are and figure out what you can and cannot compromise on before you decide to head out on a date with someone.
Don’t make it too complicated
Online dating is supposed to be fun! It’s a great way to meet your elite partner and match without having to waste time on people you don’t mesh with. Message more than 1 person at a time and meet up with someone face to face after you’ve gotten to know them a bit. Your time is valuable! Make sure you’re having fun with it and getting the most out of it.
Remember, as with most things in life, most times results are based on effort. Lots of Intelligent effort most often equals lots of Smart results.
